The choosing I am referring to is the right to choose how and what I think. That may sound like an easy quest, but if it is “easy” then it is not a “quest”. With all the pressures, opinions and criticisms of absolutely everyone and everything in our lives, at times it may seem impossible to remain true to our principles.
It is all about choices. As a non-conformist, loner type of individual I assumed it would be easier to adhere to a principled path. The reality is that the pressure to conform, especially in this “social media” age, is greater than ever.
My most important choice or choices refer to my sobriety from gambling. Gratefully, I was a short term gambler, only four and a half years. Addictions are incurable. The compulsions can be controlled or arrested, but it is a life long effort. In thirty-four days I will reach my tenth “birthday” of gambling sobriety. Truly, ten years of sobriety is 3,650 days of “one day at a time”. We learn in recovery that today is the only day that we can master. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow never arrives.
Life with sobriety is good. It is wonderful. Sobriety is not a “Holy Grail”. My life still has challenges. Mostly little ones. Occasionally, life imposes terrific challenges very suddenly. That when I need that toolbar of principles to help me make the right choice. Everything is a choice.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor E. Frankl